What It’s Like to Have A BDSM Lifestyle? Honest and Detailed Answers from the Experts

Posted on: July 5, 2020, by :
Women expresses their sexuality through BDSM

Are you in the vanilla side or the exotic side of the sex spectrum?

If your sexual experience is geared towards the vanilla spectrum, hearing about BDSM may pose misconceptions and a lot of questions in your mind. If you’re totally beginner on this, BDSM stands for bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism – and is one of the top sexual kinks in the world.

You might be wondering why people are into BDSM. Do they like the pain? What’s there to like and how do people enjoy it? Here, we get honest and detailed answers from BDSM experts to clear out fallacies and myths in BDSM play.

What do you enjoy in BDSM?

According to experts, there are many things you can love and enjoy about BDSM. The intensities can go from mild to rough ones depending on your level – a beginner or a pro.

“There is something about being submissive that I enjoy and love. I enjoy the feeling of being choked, spanked, and exploring breath play. I enjoy when I’m on a blindfold and restrained because I can feel my senses are heightened. It’s nothing like the regular play in bed.” —Charlotte*, 31

“I enjoy feeling vulnerable and open in the bedroom. This is made possible because of bondage and role-plays. I enjoy different acts we do with props and costumes on.” —Zoe*, 28“I enjoy the different toys we play around with in bed. I like exploring accessories and how each of them gives a different sensation to me. I enjoyed trying floggers, ball gags, paddles, crops, and nipple clamps, they gave unique feeling and pleasure to me.” —Sophia*, 27

How do you get into BDSM?

Adult toys and accessories take part in people's discovery of BDSM.

“I have a friend who introduced me to bondage play. Like she would show me toys she is using. So I decided to move past those misconceptions and try exploring things for myself and my partner without shame.” —Charlotte*, 31

“I’ve started using adult toys a few years ago, then out of curiosity, I tried adding BDSM toys in my collection and Googled ways how to use them.” —Sophia*, 27

“To be honest, BDSM seems to be everything that I wanted in my sex life. It looks fun and exciting and I decided I wanted that. I have to get that.”  —Jane*, 29

What do you like about BDSM that others should know?

“In BDSM, you explore different ways to express yourself. I think that’s the power of BDSM. receiving pleasure in ways you haven’t had is a bonus.”  —Zoe*, 28

“I like that you can play roles and create fantasies with partners who also enjoy the same and have a consensual agreement.” —Sophia*, 27

BDSM benefitted couples through open communication and sexual exploration.

“Common misconception about BDSM is that it is all about pain, where in fact, it also fosters your trust and communication with your loved one. Telling your partner how you want things to be done, and when it’s little or too much helped us to be vocal in our relationships.” —Charlotte*, 31

Conclusion

BDSM is an intimate play of power and sex exploration. Many women find a BDSM lifestyle as their sexual expression. More than the normal myths about having this centred in whips and pains, some benefit from it and has strengthened their relationships. There’s no denying that experts loved the BDSM lifestyle and is making ways to be accepted in our pop culture. The question is, are you ready to explore and be thrilled – BDSM style?